Here are a few things Harry Potter taught me about friendship.
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I know I’m not alone when I say that I’ve been swept up time and time again by the magical world that J.K. Rowling created. Harry Potter literally defined a generation. The people who fell in love with the series grew up with Harry and his friends and were going through some of the same things as him (you know, other than all the magic stuff and constantly being targeted by a super evil guy, but besides that…). Harry Potter is about so much more than fighting off dark wizards, learning different spells, and getting swept away by this magical universe. There are so many incredible lessons to be learned from Harry Potter. One of the most reoccurring themes throughout the books is the importance of friendship and being a good friend. These are a few of the things that Harry Potter taught me about friendship.
Being a good friend means being honest with each other no matter what.
You see this theme played out time and time again throughout the entire series. Even when it could be easier to tell a little white lie, the moments where people tell each other the truth and tell each other how it is are the ones that really bring people closer together. Sometimes those moments are lighthearted, like when everyone tells Ron how ghastly his dress robes look, and other times they’re a little more heavy, like when Hermione and Ron tell Harry that being a parseltongue isn’t a common thing in the wizarding world.
Being a good friend means reminding each other of the qualities that make you amazing.
Toward the end of Sorcerer’s Stone, Hermione is telling Harry what a great wizard he is, but he’s refusing to hear it because he’s convinced that Hermione is a much greater one than he is. Instead of simply agreeing or thanking him, Hermione decides to reiterate her statement and tell him that there are more things than just memorizing things from books that make a wizard great.
Being a good friend means sticking by each other’s sides even if it would be easier to walk away.
Throughout the entire series, there are countless times when Ron, Hermione, Neville, Luna, Dobby, all the Weasleys, and countless others could have walked away and let Harry deal with Voldemort and all the turmoil that came along with being his enemy all by himself. Instead, they chose to stand by his side knowing that it could end in the worst way possible. (RIP Fred, Dobby, Sirius, Snape, Dumbledore, etc. etc. :'( )
Being a good friend means standing up for each other, even when the other isn’t around.
While at Hogwarts, Harry had to endure so many people talking about him and his past. Hermione had to deal with the fact that she was muggle-born. People had nasty things to say about Ron being a part of a poorer wizarding family. Luna had to deal with people thinking she was a little nutso. Even with having to deal with their own problems, these friends always made sure to not say a foul word about the other behind their backs. When they overheard someone saying negative about their friends, they stood up for them. Hermione even stood up for Dobby and Winky and house elves she never even met before when she decided to start SPEW. Being a good friend doesn’t just mean being nice to someone’s face; it also means being nice when they’re not around.
Being a good friend means accepting everything about each other.
People have no control over their upbringing and how their past is going to affect who they become in the future. Even though many of the characters we meet in Harry Potter come from different backgrounds and have different beliefs, flaws, and talents, the core of who they are as a person is what creates such a deep friendship among all of them. Even though Ron and Harry see Hermione as a know-it-all and do-gooder sometimes, they accept and sometimes even embrace these things about her because she is a great friend to them and helps them out in countless scenarios. Even though Luna is a little out-of-the-box, she is an incredible friend, and she never has a negative thing to say about anyone even though she’s teased by most of the school. Being a good friend means that you’re accepting of the things that make that person harder to like sometimes because the good qualities about them overshadow the things that may make you roll your eyes at them from time to time.
Being a good friend means reaching out.
Most people know that friendship needs to be a two-way street. It’s hard to be a good friend to someone who isn’t a good friend to you. When Harry is living in the muggle world with the Dursleys, communication is a little harder because of their strict rules. In Chamber of Secrets, even when Harry notices a lack of letters from his friends, he still does what he can to reach out to them by sending letters (even though he’s feeling a bit neglected). In Goblet of Fire, when Ron learns something that could help Harry in the Triwizard Tournament, even though he’s really upset and does this in a super backwards and weird way, he sends a message through Hermione to try and get that information to Harry. It’s so important to reach out to people and remind them that you love and care about them, even in times when you’re a little upset with each other.
Being a good friend means not taking the time you have together for granted.
Even after living with the Dursleys for the first ten years of his life, as soon as Harry stepped into Hogwarts, he knew that that was his actual home. When the trio finally found their way to each other and even after they fought Voldemort in one way or another year after year, they always made sure they took time to enjoy the time they had together, knowing that when summer came around, they would have to be apart. Even if spending time together meant studying together in the library or simply enjoying a meal together, they savored every moment.
Being a good friend means not always agreeing with one another.
With any relationship you have in your life, disagreeing is common. In no relationship do two people always agree 100% of the time. Even through those times where you don’t see eye-to-eye, it’s important that you take time to see each other’s perspectives. In Sorcerer’s Stone when the trio was about to sneak out to go fight who they thought was Snape, Neville quickly jumped in and said he would fight them if they decided to leave. Even though they knew his intentions were good, the trio still decided to go on with their plan. Luckily, Neville was later rewarded for his efforts, and they all ended up being great friends.
Who is your best friend, and what are some of your favorite things about him/her?