I’m a chronic overthinker. It’s so hard for me to turn my brain off sometimes, which is why I’m so in love with writing. When my brain is too jumbled up with endless thoughts, putting pen to paper or words to screen is something that keeps me sane.
When I’m upset about something or I’m stressed out or something is making me anxious, my overthinking grows exponentially, and weirdly, something that helps me through it is reading about myself. I’m not talking about reading my blog posts or sifting through my journal. I mean, reading about my personality type or enneagram. This may seem strange, but it brings me comfort because I’m learning more about myself and using that knowledge to explain why I think a certain way or why I reacted in a certain manner. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve continued to learn more about who I am, and not only does that make me comfortable with and love myself, it also helps me better interact with others and create lasting relationships, especially when I can convince people to take these tests so I can learn a little more about them too.
If you want to learn more about yourself, these are some of the tests I recommend:
Meyers-Briggs Personality Test
This is probably arguably the most widely known personality test out there. It’s my go-to when I’m trying to convince people to take personality tests. You simply answer a series of questions, and then you’re assigned a four-letter code which determines your personality type. There are sixteen different personality types made with the following combinations:
Introvert (I) or Extrovert (E)
Intuition (N) or Sensing (S)
Thinking (T) or Feeling (F)
Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
I’m an ESFJ, and knowing this about myself has helped me learn that I have a love of, not only helping people, but also of being around people in general. I’m a people-pleaser, which can be both good and bad. Good because I’m willing to help those I care about, but bad because I can also be a doormat. Because I know the positive and negative attributes about my personality type, this helps me recognize the situations in which I’m being taken advantage of. What I love about this particular site is that it breaks down your strengths and weaknesses so it’s easier for you to recognize those weaknesses and overcome them.
My friend, Bryce, told me about this test, and it’s become one of my favorites. It’s a simple test. You just answer each question with yes, no or partly. At the end, you’re assigned one of eight numbers, and sometimes, you may have a wing or a variation of that particular Enneagram.
My Enneagram is a 2 with a 3 wing. A type 2 is known as “The Helper.” This basically means that helping others and making other people happy makes me happy. Twos are usually pretty emotional, which I definitely am. Whether that emotion be positive or negative, I feel it with my whole heart. I also have a need to be needed, which, depending on the situation, can be either awesome or toxic. Twos love to give, but they usually expect something back, and they want those things without having to say that they want them. Knowing this about myself has definitely helped me keep myself in check and stop having unrealistic expectations of others.
I have a friend who is studying psychology, and when she first told me about this test, I jumped at the chance to take it. The four temperaments are:
Choleric: Short-tempered and irritable
Melancholic: Analytical and quiet
Sanguine: Optimistic and social
Phlegmatic: Relaxed and peaceful
Of course, those are very general definitions. There’s much more to it than just two words.
The test that my friend gave me had it broken down into three different categories, and for the ones involving people, I was Sanguine Compulsive (or in my words “super sanguine”). Similar to what my other tests have said, being sanguine means I enjoy social gatherings and making new friends. Beyond that, it also tells me that I have issues with following through with tasks that don’t hold my interest, and sometimes I’ll even walk away from conversations that I find boring. I also tend to be late and scatterbrained and I use sarcasm as a defense mechanism. Knowing this, I now notice when my mind wanders during a conversation I may find boring. I still have trouble keeping my sarcasm to a minimum, and sadly, I’m always late for everything.
I’ve taken this test twice, once when I was in a relationship and once when I was single, but my results were relatively the same. In case you’ve never heard of the Love Languages, there are five:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
I think those are all pretty self explanatory. Basically, you take a test, and it tells you which of the love languages is most important to you in a relationship. Honestly, I think these can be used for both romantic and non-romantic situations. Each category is ranked on a scale of 1-12, and your highest score is your primary love language. These were my results:
Physical Touch: 8
Quality Time: 8
Acts of Service: 7
Words of Affirmation: 6
Receiving Gifts: 1
From this, I basically learned that I need it all.
Kidding. Kinda. I have two primary love languages, but I had two others that ranked pretty close. As I mentioned, I think this can be used for friendly relationships too. I know that I love spending time with people, and I love when people do things for me because, as I mentioned when I talked about my Enneagram, I love when people pay it forward to me if I’ve done stuff for them in the past. Circle of life, right?
Okay, so this isn’t actually a test, but you know what I mean. I’m not big into daily horoscopes or anything like that, but I do believe that when you were born says a lot about you.
I was born on December 15th, and I believe I’m a true Sagittarius. Sagittariuses love to travel, are extroverts, are enthusiastic about life and are naturally curious. We’re also very impatient, and say and do things before thinking. We love our freedom and love to explore. And just to reemphasize what all of my personality types said, Sagittariuses love to be surrounded by people.
Even though all of these tests will reemphasize some of your major personality traits, each one also tells you a little bit more about yourself. I honestly love reading things about my personality types and the personality types of my friends because it helps me think about the things I do in certain situations, and it also helps me feel a little closer to the people in my life because I can learn about why they do the things they do, react the way they do and feel the way they do in different scenarios.
Have you taken any of these tests? What were your results?
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