I’ve always had trouble deciphering whether someone is a true friend to me or not because honestly, I just love people. As I mentioned a couple weeks ago, I’m an Air Force brat, and I’ve spent my entire life having people come in and out of it, some without me even giving it a second thought. Even with that aspect of it, I think for everyone, when it comes to friendship, we all have different kinds of friends in our life, but the length of a friendship or the number of times you talk to a person a day doesn’t lessen or heighten the importance of that relationship in your life.
There are some friends that I’ve had for years who barely know anything about me and vice versa. We don’t call or text each other everyday for a life update. We may not see each other or even speak to each other for months, but I know that when we do get together, we’ll always have a good time.
There are some friends that I haven’t known for very long at all that I see frequently throughout the week. Even though we’re still getting to know each other, I value these new friendships as much as the ones I’ve had for several years.
There are some friends that I only keep up with on social media, and we only seem to cross paths when they’re in town for a holiday or visiting family.
There are some friends who I literally only speak to when it’s one of our birthdays.
The thing about people is that we’re constantly changing. I know that when I look at myself ten years ago or even just last year, I vastly differ in my way of thinking, my opinions, my priorities. That’s why when I look back at the friendships that I’ve made over the years, the people who were in my life at those times were the people that I needed to be in my life at the moment. Because of that, I will always value every single friendship I’ve ever made, even the ones that ended in a bad way.
My Enneagram is a Type Two with a Three-Wing, which will literally mean nothing to about 95% of you. I have this obsession with personality tests, and the Enneagram Test is easily one of my favorites because I’ve had so many “aha” moments while reading about Type Two personalities. A Type Two with a Three-Wing is also known as “The Hostess.” This means, I naturally enjoy catering to and meeting the needs of others in order to fulfill myself. This made so much sense to me when I read it because I love giving people surprises, sending random things in the mail, complimenting strangers and basically helping in anyway that I can (that sounds so saint-like, which I very much am not, but it can also be very toxic if I continuously focus on the needs of others while ignoring my own). Helping people enriches my life, and there are few things that make me happier than making others happy.
Naturally, Type Twos flock to people, and I think being a Type Two really embodies the reason why I put so much value into all of the friendships I make. I get attached to people easily, and I love learning things about them so I can keep it in my back pocket for birthdays, holidays and surprises. I can’t tell you how many notes I have in Evernote with random facts about people. That may sound a little creepy, but I promise I have good intentions.
I’m really just so grateful for my friends, and writing this makes me wish there was something I could do for all of them to really show my appreciation for the happiness that they’ve all brought into my life at one point or another. I’ve always said I’m a people-person, and being there for other people, whether they’ve asked me to be or not, is truly what brings me happiness.
This post is dedicated to anyone that I’ve ever called a friend. Thank you for the little bit (or lotta bit) of happiness that you’ve brought into my life at one point or another. Thanks for making me smile, making me feel special, asking for my advice, celebrating my victories, being a shoulder for me to cry on, being someone for me to look up to, for believing in me, loving me and for being my friend. There are no words for me to express how much you mean to me.
What is your favorite thing about your best friend?