I would definitely consider myself a relationship person. Not necessarily in a romantic sense, but just in general. I love connecting with people, learning their likes and dislikes, taking interest in the things that they like to do. I love learning about people’s pasts, finding out what places they’ve traveled to, figuring out what their passions are. I just love people, and the concept of learning to like being alone has always been so foreign to me. I think most people would agree that I’m a social person. If I spend too much time alone, I associate that with being lonely and unliked. I crave human contact, albeit sometimes in an unhealthy way. This is probably why the message behind the movie, How to be Single, resonated with me so much.
Last night, my friend, Haley, and I went to an advanced screening of How to be Single. If you haven’t seen the trailer, watch below. I knew that I was going to fall in love with this movie. I cried both from sadness/empathy and from laughing so hard:
I think the reason I loved this movie so much was because I saw so much of myself in the main character, Alice. The movie starts with her breaking up with her college boyfriend because she feels like she hasn’t had time to really get to know herself. She says that she’s spent her whole life relying on someone else, and she doesn’t know who she is. She believes that breaking up with her boyfriend will allow her to experience new things and really find herself. Ummm…yea. That really hit close to home. Please see this blog post for reference.
[Warning: This paragraph is semi-spoilery. It doesn’t give any specific details away, but if you plan on seeing the movie, you may want to give this paragraph a skip.] So Alice finds herself living on her own in New York after meeting a crazy friend, Robin, who takes her under her wing and teaches her about the NYC single life. Robin introduces Alice to a bartender, and they start hooking up with no strings attached. She starts having second thoughts about breaking up with her boyfriend, who, of course, has already met someone new who is absolutely perfect. She meets another guy who has a daughter that she connects with, but of course, that blows up in her face. Plus there are other storylines going on with this girl named Lucy who’s taking a stab at online dating and obsessed with the concept of falling in love, and Alice’s sister who decides to get pregnant and meets this guy who is absolutely perfect for her, but she’s an independent woman, so…
Basically, the movie showcases how putting yourself out there is hard. Dating is tough, and trying to figure out who you are in the midst of that is even harder. Like Alice, I’ve had a series of pseudo-relationships over the past few months, and also like Alice, I learned a lot about myself during and after each one.
The thing that resonated with me the most was when the movie talked about how so many people define their lives by the relationships that they’re in. People forget about the beauty of being single and using that time alone to really figure out who they are and what they want. You forget to take advantage of having no strings attached and to live in the moment of just being unapologetically yourself. Of course, you don’t have to necessarily be single to do any of that, but I love how the movie embraced the concept of knowing and loving yourself and being comfortable with who you are, instead of defining your life by the people that you’ve dated.
I’m a big fan of love, every single kind of love, but the love that I often forget about is self-love. Some days, I think I’m so comfortable with where I am, and other days I just cry, drink a lot of wine and listen to Taylor Swift songs (#balance). I think it’s so important to embrace all parts of being single while you can (and really just embrace life in general).
I don’t think there are enough words for me to describe how much I loved How to be Single. Obviously it has a lot to do with the parallels of my life and Alice’s life (awkward moments included), but even if those parallels weren’t there, I know I would have still loved this movie. Everything that came out of Rebel Wilson’s mouth was absolutely brilliant and hilarious. There was a perfect balance of heartwarming and heartbreaking moments. Not to mention, I loved every single song that played in the background.
There’s something in this movie for everyone, and anyone who watches it will find a character that they connect with in some way. I loved this movie so much that I walked out of the theater and told Haley, “I can’t wait to watch this movie again.”
Do you plan on seeing How to be Single?