Break-ups are hard, and I think that goes without saying for those of us who have been through one…or more than one. Whether you’re the person making the decision to leave someone or you’re on the other end of it, coming out of a relationship is tough. Everyone copes in different ways. I’ve dealt with all of my break-ups in peculiar (and sometimes strange) ways, but a few things that have always brought me bits of temporary solace are writing and listening to sad, depressing break-up music.
I talk about music on Endless Bliss a lot because, as I’ve said before, it’s such a huge part of my life. I’ve always been the kind of person who hates silence. I can’t even take a shower without having music playing the background. If I’m cooking, I’m either watching Netflix or a YouTube video or listening to music. When I’m driving, music is blasting, and I’m singing at the top of my lungs. When I’m cleaning, I usually put a record on. I’d rather fill silences with music than my attempts at awkward conversation.
When I’m sad, I like to listen to music that coincides with those feelings, even if they make me sadder. I love when I find a song that completely resonates with all of the feelings inside of my head because it brings me a little bit of comfort knowing that someone else was feeling the same thing, and they felt moved enough to write a song about it so that other people who have felt the same things can feel like they’re not alone.
If music is something that brings you solace when you’re going through a break-up, you might find comfort in these songs too. I even took the liberty of categorizing them, because, as we all know, coping with break-ups comes in stages. These are a few songs that I have put on repeat when I’ve dealt with break-ups (and yes, Taylor Swift makes more than one appearance, because she gets it).
>>>When you still love them, but you know the best thing for you to do is try to move on…
Let It Go – James Bay
I used to recognize myself.
It’s funny how reflections change,
When we’re becoming something else.
I think it’s time to walk away.
Drive – Oh Wonder
I can’t help but drive away from all the mess you made.
You sent this hurricane, now it won’t go away.
And I promised I’d be there, but you don’t make it easy.
Darling, please believe me.
I Hate U I Love U – Gnash feat. Olivia O’Brien
I hate you. I love you.
I hate that I love you.
Don’t want to, but I can’t put,
Nobody else above you.
Bumper Cars – Alex & Sierra
All roads since you,
Are wrong directions.
I’ll never get home.
And it’s making me wanna be with you, I know.
You and me, we’re bumper cars.
The more I try to get to you,
The more we crash apart.
Breathe – Taylor Swift
And we know it’s never simple, never easy,
Never a clean break. No one here to save me.
You’re the only thing I know like the back of my hand.
And I can’t breathe without you…
But I have to.
>>>When you know it’s over, but they still cross your mind sometimes…
Forever & Always – Taylor Swift
I hold onto the night,
You looked me in the eye and told me you loved me.
Were you just kidding?
Cause it seems to me, this thing is breaking down.
We almost never speak.
I don’t feel welcome anymore.
Baby, what happened? Please tell me.
Cause one second it was perfect.
Now you’re halway out the door.
Window Pain – Xenia
Are you searching for something? For me?
Heard you were lost.
I left a compass in your drawer.
Follow the sounds. Footsteps on the floor.
I’ll be waiting.
I’ll be waiting forever. For you.
Hello – Adele
Hello, it’s me.
I was wondering if after all these years you’d like to meet,
To go over everything.
They say time’s supposed to heal ya,
But I ain’t done much healing.
Last Kiss – Taylor Swift
The words that you whispered
For just us to know.
You told me loved me,
So why did you go away…
All that I know is
I don’t know how to be something you miss.
Never thought we’d have a last kiss.
Almost Lover – A Fine Frenzy
I’d never want to see you unhappy.
I thought you’d want the same for me.
Goodbye my almost lover.
Goodbye my hopeless dream.
I’m trying not to think about you.
Can’t you just let me be?
In Time (Singularity Remix) – PeaceTreaty, Arem Ozguc
What can I do,
When there’s no me without you?
I’m splitting slowly. Just leave me lonely…
I’ve been lost in time,
Forgetting my mind.
If I knew what to do, I’d learn how to erase you.
Comfortable – John Mayer
I loved you.
Grey sweatpants. No makeup. So perfect.
Our love was comfortable and
So broken in.
She’s perfect, so flawless.
I’m not impressed. I want you back.
Haunted – Taylor Swift
Stood there and watched you walk away,
From everything we had,
But I still mean every word I said to you.
He will try to take away my pain,
And he just might make me smile,
But the whole time I’m wishing it was you instead.
>>>When you have a moment of weakness, and you just want them back…
In Case – Demi Lovato
Strong enough to leave you,
But weak enough to need you…
Yeah, I know,
One day I’ll have to let it all go,
But I keep it just in case…
In case you don’t find what you’re looking for.
In case you’re missing what you had before.
In case you change your mind,
I’ll be waiting here in case,
You just want to come home.
No One’s Gonna Love You – Band of Horses
If things start splitting at the seams and now,
It’s tumbling down.
But no one is ever gonna love you more than I do.
No one’s gonna love you more than I do.
Wait – NF
Don’t you love me?
Guess you don’t want me…
I’m holding on to pieces of us,
That I just can’t let go.
I know this is a desperate kind of love,
But it feels like it’s home.
I Wish You Would – Taylor Swift
I wish we could go back,
And remember what we were fighting for.
And I wish you knew that,
I miss you too much to be mad anymore.
And I wish you were right here, right now. It’s all good.
I wish you would.
Over You – Miranda Lambert
But you went away.
How dare you?
I miss you.
They say I’ll be okay,
But I’m not going to ever get over you.
I Don’t Wanna Love Somebody Else – A Great Big World
Oh, we left it all unspoken.
Oh, we buried it alive.
And now it’s screaming in my head.
Oh, I shouldn’t go on hoping.
Oh, that you will change your mind,
And one day we could start again.
Well, I don’t care if loneliness kills me.
I don’t wanna love somebody else.
Stay – Florida Georgia Line
But if I told you I loved you, would it make you want to stay?
I’m sorry for the way I hurt you and making you walk away.
And if I wrote you a love song and sang it to you every day,
Would it ever be enough to make you wanna
Come back home and stay?
>>>When you’re finally in a good place about the breakup…
Clean – Taylor Swift
Rain came pouring down when I was drowning.
That’s when I could finally breathe.
And by morning, gone was any trace of you.
I think I am finally clean.
Miss Me – Andy Grammer
Set me up for the falling, gave me no warning. You were gone.
Let me down, I was reeling. I can’t believe what you have done.
Go do what you’ve gotta do. Damn words will follow you,
Everywhere you go.
And I know there will come a time when I look you in the eyes,
And say, “I told you so.’
And I promise you this, you’re gonna miss me.
Proved You Wrong – Cassadee Pope
Cold as ice. Your words cut like knives.
I deserve a prize for sticking around this long.
You say I’m nothing without you,
And no one loves me like you do.
Always left me feeling black and blue.
Well this could go on and on and on and on, but,
Hey, I’m breaking free. Just watch me walk away.
Had your hooks in me, but I escaped.
Ridin Solo (Njomza Remix) – Hippie Sabotage
I won’t look back on things that don’t look my way.
Cause time has made me change.
It won’t let me stay.
Why should I care when you absolutely never did?
Don’t you know that love,
It works both ways.
Happily Ever After – Gardiner Sisters
We see each other when you got some time.
You never think about respecting mine.
Boy, would it kill you to apologize…
All I ever wanted was to be your girl.
Could’ve been together, taking on the world.
Now I’m letting go cause I deserve a
Happily ever after.
If you want even more break-up songs, you can check out my “break” playlist on Spotify:
What advice do you have for people going through a break-up? What are your favorite break-up songs?